Being Black in South Korea

Being Black in South Korea

Oh snap, here we go. Before we get started, I want to go ahead and preface that these experiences are my own with a few of my other friends of color’s stories mixed in. This is a delicate subject for most (everyone) people and I already anticipate differing opinions, but I feel like it’s important for me to actually speak on what I have seen and done in reference to my race while here in Korea.

When I first decided to come to Korea, I admit I was absolutely terrified about how I was going to be received because of my skin color. It’s not a secret that Korea, like many other countries in the world, celebrates paler skin and more Caucasian features. That’s not to say that they are deliberately racist or anything of the sort, but Korea specifically is more exposed to Hollywood and other Western stereotypes that perpetuate that white is beautiful. Of course, there are two sides to every coin and whatnot, but the general consensus from what I have seen is that pale skin is more popular. There have also been many different cases of racism and stereotyping when it comes to people of color by Korean celebrities and regular people alike. Whether this is simply from ignorance or the fact that people here genuinely see black people in a certain light, these questionable moments have happened, and knowing they have happened made me extremely wary before I even stepped off the plane.

When I first arrived I was in the protective embrace of orientation where everyone was from somewhere else and we were all fish out of water, so really at no point did my race come up as anything other than “What country are you from?” It wasn’t until we went on our first field trip to Jeonju, a beautiful city not far from Daejeon where orientation was held, that I felt it. Now, I understand the situation wasn’t a normal one. There were basically a million foreigners storming the streets of this village like town while the natives were also out in full force, staring us down. Of course, now my reaction seems a little silly, but at the time I almost had a genuine panic attack in the midst of such a crowd goggling us like we were a TV show. I’m getting anxiety just from thinking about it now.

My reaction to people looking at me didn’t stop in Jeonju.

When we got to Chungju, where I currently live, every time we went into E-Mart and I accidentally got in someone’s way or made eye contact, even just felt someone’s presence around me, my reaction was instantaneous. I would mumble out an apology and physically shrink into myself like I was about to be hit. Now, back home, this reaction would have been beyond strange for me. I’m not necessarily known for being shy in any way shape or form, so for my reaction to be so strong and instinctual was something that required some soul searching. After months of this ongoing strange behavior, along with everyone’s comments when they realized what I was doing, I found the cause. It was because I continued to wait for someone to have a negative reaction to my presence, and I was literally mentally and physically repelling it before I had a chance to examine anyone’s reaction at all.

As time went on I finally stopped being so afraid.

It’s not because I no longer notice, because I do, or that I no longer care, because that would also be a lie, but because now I’m actually curious. Sometimes I will stare at people and they will stare me back down, but at least now I know, for the most part, that they’re just trying to figure me out.

Rather than looking for blatantly negative moments, it’s the subtle ones that happen every once in a while that really bother me. Like when the students that come in for the week automatically think I’m from Africa or Jamaica. Or when they only have Obama or hip hop videos as reference to what they think my life is like in America. Something inside of me dies literally anytime anyone says, “Yo yo, what’s up man?!” to me simply because they think that’s how I talk on a regular basis, as if I would ever speak like that in a classroom setting or even on the regular for that matter.

Most of the time my race doesn’t come up at all. My co-teachers in particular don’t ever comment on my skin color, merely the fact that I’m a foreigner. Unfortunately, I know this cannot be said for all of my friends here in Korea. Especially when the Ebola virus broke out, even in Korea, thousands of miles from anywhere that had anyone who was infected, started panicking and looking suspiciously at all black people. I was on the subway with a friend of mine who is also of color and has natural hair and an older man laughed, pointed and loudly exclaimed as he was walking by, “Africa, ebola!”

Needless to say, neither of us found this even slightly amusing.

Another time a friend of mine came to visit from America and as we walked through the subway this drunk ahjussi screamed, in albeit slurred, but detectable, English, “GO BACK TO YOUR F- – – – – – COUNTRY!” Now, there was also a foreign couple right in front of us who turned to see who he was talking to, and there’s no way to know if it was about us being foreign or both my friend and I being black, but it was shocking nonetheless. That has been the only event that has truly stuck out in my mind as obviously negative. There are of course the horror stories you’ll hear about taxi drivers not wanting to take someone somewhere because of their color, or someone making a blatantly rude comment, but for the most part, I haven’t had more than those few small incidents happen to me.

Despite my physical appearance, I often feel just as comfortable as I do at home.

Racism exists everywhere, in small doses or large depending on where you live, but for the most part here it often seems to be less about my race and more the fact that I’m a foreigner. Of course, people see that I’m black, but I’ve gotten less commentary on it here than I do at home. In Texas I’m constantly aware of the fact that I’m a different color. In Korea I’m more constantly aware that I’m simply a waygook and people are more likely to look at me strangely because I can’t figure out the recycling system.

What I’m really trying to wrap up with here, in a long-winded sort of way, is that my initial fears of being something of a social outcast in Asia because I’m African-American were completely unfounded. Of course, this is just my take of things because I know others have had different experiences. However, though I’m certainly happy when I see others who look like me, it’s not a huge deal when I don’t. I no longer try to count the amount of other black people I see when I’m walking down the street in Seoul, nor do I no longer scramble for some kind of unseen social foothold. I feel as accepted as if I simply moved somewhere else in the States. If your only reasoning for not wanting to move abroad is your race, as I know several others who actually struggle with this, I say don’t worry about it. Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.

Or something like that.

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32 thoughts on "Being Black in South Korea"

  1. M says:

    I read the article and I was happy to find it. I also watched your video. Thank you for sharing your experience.

    I am a Black man from America. I studied mechanical engineering. Currently I work in software. Specifically I have skills in automated testing and automotive mechanics.

    Since I work in software, I was imagining I could work in Korea, so long as I had internet. How realistic is it for me to find software work? Here where I live it is easy if you have the skills. Officially I have an associates degree and 5+ years software work experience.

    I’ve heard Seoul is extremely vain, and selfies may be submitted with resumes. They wont hire you if they think youre ugly. Is that true? seems harsh.

    As far as generally existing – I have dreadlocks down to my shoulders. I’m 6ft, 195lbs (183cm, 88kg) with a mesomorph body type. I am nicely muscular and I’ve been solicited to, for modeling. (I am not bragging, ive been told i am attractive for years by many people from different backgrounds)

    Which makes me expect a lot of attention if I were to move there

    I like fast/loud cars. 3D printing and CAD design. Martial arts, Biking, playing Gears of war on xbox, and working out at a gym. How likely is it i can maintain the things I like? – Probably depends on my income? Because me opening a shop to build/engineer things is a dream.

    I still need to learn korean. I strongly worry about that difficulty and not knowing would compound the racism there lol

    Because racism is quite common here and I am OVER IT – i’ve noticed some white men are just scared/intimidated and insecure within their own hearts and some of those men project their fears and expectations on to me. Which can lead to a negative interaction. (maybe it is a human male thing, but ugh it happens so often).

    How is it interacting with Korean men? Because in my elementary, junior high, and high school and college, I noticed a common denominator with mean kids. Would-be bullies could be nasty-racist behind my back, but never blatantly to my face. I am an anti-bully. I googled stuff and I will be physically larger than most of the average locals. So I wonder if I should expect a lot of deeply passive-aggressive racism with Korean men/women?

    I have a half-korean girlfriend who’s mother side of the family lives there. So we would have some sort of backup, but I would rather have my own space because the family who ive never personally met might be racist too lol. How easy is it to find property?

    I noticed hotels that were like 30-50 US_dollars a day, and for around $2,100 usd I could fly there, stay for nearly and month, check out the city and make a decision?

    I am not leaving america to escape from anything. I know racism exists all over the world. I only want to go to Korea because it would mean the world to my half korean girlfriend who lived in korea as a child. shes 28 now, (im 29) and weve been together for 6 years. she wants to live there for at least a year.

    Ive traveled over seas to VISIT parts of the Caribbean, the UAE, Ghana and South Africa. I welcome the culture shock but I feel like I might actually miss america? but not at the same time
    Thanks for reading!

    TLDR: Considering moving to Korea because of a longterm relationship. I currently work in software, How hard is life is going to be in South Korea for a smart, tall, and fit black male who’s spouse is half korean?

  2. Rukia says:

    Rukia
    Am from Uganda it has been always my dream and will always be my dream to go to South Korea and have my studies but my greatest fears were the way they will treat me while in Korea

  3. Destiny says:

    I am Nigerian ,i really wish to play professional football in South Korea someday.But i don’t know much about the country,if there is anything like racism being practiced there,someone should please enlighten me

  4. Oreva says:

    Ok so am Nigerian and I really think it will be a great experience visiting Korea and perhaps study there like seriously they have one the best medicine schools and it’s been my dream any Korean out there to talk to please email me orevautehwe@gmail.com I am serious

    1. Dajin John says:

      Am a Nigerian and would really like to practice medicine at South Korea. What do you think?

  5. Pepuna says:

    Can somebody tells me if South Koreans are interested in learning French?
    I also want to visit that beautiful country

  6. Mylene says:

    Hi i’m french and i want to go study in korea but i don’t know
    if with a student visa you can study Korean and study for a job in Korea at the same time?

  7. Shermain says:

    Hi, I loved your article. I’ve been looking for kindergarten schools to work at recently and I’ve had some korean co workers tell me, “Be careful because korean principals usually want white teachers, not black.” All I could was nod and try to keep a blank face.

  8. Habeeba says:

    Hi
    I’m a black girl from Ghana and I have always loved everything about Koreans but I have always wanted to know what it feels like to be in South Korea.
    More precisely being a black.
    I want to know what most Koreans think about blacks.

    1. Destiny says:

      여보세요 (hello in korean)
      I have always wanted to move to South Korea because I’ve always admired Koreans especially because of their beautiful features. So I wanted to know what it would be like if I moved there because I am Native American. In the future I hope I marry someone Korean, Asian, or Cambodian. (A lot of them are cute and these people are apparently my type. They are the only type of people that appeal to me. This might cause me to be single as a Pringle for the rest of my life)
      P.S. I don’t know Korean yet, but Korean is one of the easiest languages to learn.

    2. 정환 says:

      I’m a student living in Korea. To be honest, there are quite a lot of older people who are still racist.

  9. Melissa says:

    My name is Melissa and i am a black girl from South Africa. I have been in South Korea now for 1 month (i arrived on the 16th of August.2019) and i am loving it so far. It was abit scary at first but i have to admit i am one strong person, i don’t let ugly stares break my spirit because i believe ignorance is a choice & if you choose to be ignorant that’s on you. I have had wonderful people come up to me and ask me where i am from etc…and others who stare with abit of shock i don’t mind, do you honey and i’ma do me. So long as i know that i am in your country legally and i am not here to break the law i’m good. I am teaching English here and if you ask me we all need each other. I have heard some Korean kids telling me that them learning english will enable them to go study in America and in the UK. So there is really no need for rude people. We are all helping each other out. It also helps if you are a teacher and you have a good agent and my agent Julie she is very caring, prompt and reliable so it makes life bearable. When i first arrived i didn’t have any friends but i have since met 3 American white guys who are extremely kind and fun to be around so those are my friends in this country. I have also met some Korean girls and boys who i hangout with they are very open minded, kind and definatly not racist. We call ourselves the English squad and our Korean friends say we help them alot because they want to improve their English. I live in Iksan City Jeollabuk-do province. Here is my whatsapp number if you are also around SK +27 784 862 133 hit me up and let’s make life easier for one another since we are far from home. My Kakao id is MelissaZar. Ps. I also do understand those Koreans who have not seen a black person in their life, i fully understand but be open don’t be rude to people. Huge gratitude to those who aren’t rude because in South Africa we also have a huge chinese community and we don’t treat them with disrespect.

    1. Claudine says:

      I’m South African too🤩I want to study in South Korea and I was always scared I would be blasted with harsh comments but you showed me what I needed to see thank you 🌸

  10. LaKisha says:

    Thank you Anyssa, I want to visit South Korea but was worried how I would be accepted as a black women in a country that prefers lighter skin tone. I am now more motivated to take the trip and feel that it won’t be more scary than living in Ohio. There are many racist areas here, mostly in the country/farm areas.

  11. Levy Quento says:

    Am also planning to come and stay in South Korea. How is life and are jobs easy accessed for foreigners. Am born and raised in Africa. Someone to kindly advise.

  12. Augustus Tarty says:

    I’m a Liberian, from Monrovia Liberia, my Country have a free visa on arrival in South Korera, but I’m so afraid about how who to speak with or speak to when I get to south Korea , because I have no relatives, Friends and anyone that I know in South Korea, so I left Liberia and I’m having in Abuja Nigeria right now, but my dream is for me to still travel to south Korea, so believed Dear Friends, Koreans, and especially Black African that are living in south Korea, here is my WhatsApp phone number, +2347033115066, my Instagram page is Sytekonfashion, my Facebook name is Prince Augustus Tarty, please I need a Friend in South Korea, that will inform me about some very important things about south Korea OK,

  13. Natascha says:

    My country does not appear on countries eligible to teach in South Korea, does this mean I don’t stand a chance to teach English?

    1. Sara Thacker says:

      Hi Natascha,

      Unfortunately, those are the countries from which the E2 visa is awarded, which you need to legally work in Korea. If you want to teach elsewhere we can help, email us at travelabroad@greenheart.org!

  14. naisha says:

    while i havent visited south Korea yet, i have known some south koreans. while i dont know if they way a person acts here in the U.S. is the same way they’d act in there own counrty i have had positive experiences . Actually my best friend in college was a boy “Jay Woo” from south korea. I learned so much about the country that we aren’t taught here and, so much about his experience with other south koreans born here in the U.S. Now we did have some “so so” experiences people looking as us weird and black guys making jokes and even where he toke some lip from other koreans for hanging out with a black girl but no one ever said anything to me.I personally feel like the same type of things would happen in south korea too and, it not that big of a deal to me. Nevertheless he never stopped hanging with me and although he was shy and even more shy about his english i can say that he and others i’ve met have made me want to visit. I can say for sure it is better to go with or know a korean person out there, or make friends quickly. there are in fact a lot of gangs (mostly students) who don’t minds starting trouble in certain areas. for those of you who don’t speak korean best you start practicing and learning some key word especially from that refer black or foreign people/ person or negative remarks so that you are better aware of your surroundings but thats with any foreign country where you don’t speak the language . Again this is my opinion and no i haven’t personally went yet. i would be open to getting group together to go , so if any one is interested on making that happen my ig is below.
    Natural_ten

  15. Amal says:

    I don’t think the right word is “trying not to be racist” it’s act on it. But as the time will pass and has past. I think now there are people more accepting and acknowledging about foreigner and and people from all races. I don’t live in korea but someday I want i just wanna move and live there and share my opinion and that “korean are racism” everywhere in the media we can make scrap that. So that people who wanna follow there dreams like me won’t have to hesitate and research research research.
    To everyone wondering should I go there,
    I did the same thing search everything. Will korea be safe for me? Oh will i ever make friends? Or will I be lonely forever and ever? Will I find an Oppa oh
    Dramaqueen 🙄
    Now I’m gonna tell you 1 thing you are reading other people’s experiences not yours, cuz yours is not theirs cuz yours is goin’ to be different. Remember that Ok!
    Now Peace to everyone enjoy life l Sure do ✌🏽🤪

  16. Qwertty says:

    I’m south korean and my opinion can’t represent all korean, but It seemed that you guys need some help or imformation. It was unusual to see foreigners in our country since a long time ago because of its geographical and historical reasons. So when we see foreigner, it is kind of interesting and new even just seeing them just because it is not usual, and we get curious about them but this curiosity often is in a positive manner. Lots of people around the world now is coming to Korea so it is less severe than past, but the population mainly is focused on cities, usually Seoul. And people’s tendency is not something that can change so fast. What I want to say is that we don’t generally differenciate and judge people with their skin colors. Some may, but at least for me and for people around me, we will try as hard as we can not to be racists. And we even know that it’s one of the most controversial issues.

    1. Ange says:

      I would agree with you. There are some that can be, some are not. Depending on how they look at you. Even here in the Philippines, we sometimes are curious on the looks of the foreign tourists. We also admired people with white complexity. But at the end of the day, it is still how you carry yourself, whether you’re black, you’re white and etc.

    2. Divine Newyear says:

      Am a Nigerian one of the Africa country I want to learn how to speak Korean. I love Korean so much and it my dream country please can you help me out

      1. Oreva says:

        Same here maybe we could team up I d love to learn the language and study Derek maybe we could team up kindly email me orevautehwe@gmail.com

  17. S. Christian Berry says:

    My daughter loves the culture and for her 21st birthday this December I’m planning a trip for us. Any tip you can offer?

  18. Hydra says:

    Many people in South Korea haven’t seen a black person In real life, hence the looks. Most Asian countries aren’t a melting pot like the West.. And btw, Koreans have their OWN standards of beauty…. Japan and South Korea have preferred pale skin since antiquity….

  19. Yahaira says:

    I want to go and study in South Korea for my high school years. But I do not know if I could. Of if it was a good idea. I’m not from African decent but I am Latina.
    Any advice???

  20. Steve says:

    I need a job here in south Korea

  21. Zoe Dube says:

    This is really an eye opener because I also want to move to south Korea but I’m wasn’t sure about how people will act round me since I’m a black girl…. And south african
    Thank u

    1. Yamkela says:

      I’m two days in and absolutely hating it. It may be that I’m having separation anxiety from my husband (we are in two different cities) or that everyone stares, all the time. It’s a huge adjustment for someone from South Africa. My one friend lasted 3 months and then left. I don’t know if I’ll be staying for long, I’m giving myself a month to see, but I can tell you this. If you come, come mentally prepared and open-minded. Also, if you have a friend or someone also keen to come, come with them. It’s easier to navigate Korea with someone else.

    2. Lesley Goueri says:

      Hi, we in May 2019, did you go to Korea?

  22. Moon says:

    Man is always moved by what he hears and sees. With the experiences of others, one can decide on steps to take. Thus, my questions have always been “what is life in Korea all about?” job opportunities, treatment of of other race “Africans”, culture cum tradition,food and religion. Those are the key factors that one would think about before the idea of visiting South Korea matures. I would love to know more about how South Koreans accommodate other race and how it affects an individual from enjoying his stay. Thanks.

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